Goal Settingby Arielle Essex
- Why bother with goal setting?
- How big or small should a goal be?
- What’s the quickest, most effective way to set goals?
- What if I don’t know what goals to set?
- What do you do once you’ve set a goal?
- What are the pitfalls to avoid?
- Why doesn’t goal setting always work?
1. Why bother with goal setting?
While wishing and dreaming may help to get you in touch with what you want, it’s not enough. If you want specific changes to take place in your life, you need to actively set these as goals. Without goals, you will simply drift and the chances of achieving that happiness that we all seek will be slim. You have many possible futures, so choose one that you would prefer.
Would you give back the menu in a restaurant and ask the waiter to just bring anything he felt like? What if you didn’t like it? So exercise some choice over your future in order to get a future you want.
2. How big or small should a goal be?
Goals come in many sizes. There is no ‘right’ size. Also, what is good for one person may well not work for someone else. When you are setting goals, start with the big ones, and then when you have set these, set goals for actions or outcomes that support the big ones.
3. What’s the quickest, most effective way to set goals?
This depends on the size of the goal. If it is a really big goal, you need to go through the whole process as outlined in this topic. Anything less, and you greatly decrease the likelihood of the goal happening. For a small goal, the decision to do something may be no more than a thought immediately followed by action.
4. What if I don’t know what goals to set?
This may be because you have so many things you want or would like to change, that you just do not know where to start. It may also be that you simply have never given it much thought or have learnt to live without aspirations or ambition.
In any case, a good place to start is with your values. As you discover your values, you will also discover what you enjoy, what you find good and what makes you happy. You need to understand that ultimately you want happiness. Anything else you want is just a way of achieving happiness as an ultimate goal.
Once you have become aware of your values, you will find that it is easy to start thinking of the best goals to go for.
5. What do you do once you’ve set a goal?
The key thing here is to commit to doing something about it. This will be far easier than you imagine, as the goal setting process in this topic will ensure you have set a goal that really excites you. You will be keen and eager to get started – to commit to taking action.
Once you are committed, it is then important to get providence on your side and to get those synchronicities and coincidences working in your favour. You do this by taking relevant action. As you start, so new things will appear to help you along your way because you will be attuned to noticing what would help you.
6. What are the pitfalls to avoid?
Unfortunately, there are many misunderstandings around goal setting, and many myths that have been perpetuated because they seem reasonable at first glance. The real pitfall is not taking goal setting seriously and thus not bothering to do it well. If you don’t follow the simple rules around goal setting, you will probably not get your goals. And that is where the myths start, as people will sometimes achieve their goals even if they ignore all the rules. But if you want to increase the odds in your favour to 100 per cent, follow the rules.
7. Why doesn’t goal setting always work?
The simple answer is that the problem is usually caused by an internal conflict about what is really wanted. This leads to a lack of commitment, a lack of motivation and thus a lack of action. If you follow the steps within this topic, any conflicts you have will be identified and there are exercises you can do to resolve them.