Confidence

by Melanie Greene

What affects your confidence?

Ask yourself the following questions:

  • In which situations do I feel confident?
  • In which situations don’t I feel so confident?
  • What is the difference that makes the difference between feeling confident or unconfident – is it the situation, the people present or things within me?

Sometimes you find that a person is confident in a situation one week, but not the next. Is it that they are in a different mood? Has their energy or health changed? Has something happened in or out of work that has affected how they feel?

Or they are confident with one group of people, but not another. Are they more confident with strangers than people they know, or vice versa? Are they more confident when they know their topic better than their audience does? Are there certain audiences that affect their confidence: senior managers, difficult groups, strangers, academics or technical people, people who are younger or older than themselves and so on.

Or is it something about the situation:

  • A strange or unfamiliar environment
  • New technology or tasks
  • When and where it is happening.

What is the difference that makes the difference with you?

In what situations do you need to pay more attention to managing and boosting your confidence?

What if I am under confident the whole time?

Some people, especially if they have a harsh inner critic, lack confidence almost the whole time, but even they, if questioned, might find that there are some instances, maybe outside work, where they are actually confident.

Even if you feel unconfident the whole time, you can still go about building your confidence on a daily basis by using the techniques recommended here. What you will need to do is to use one or two of them on a regular basis – weekly, if not daily – to counter your inner critic and boost you confidence. Perseverance will pay off and you will start to notice a difference in how you feel.