The higher your energy level, the more efficient your body. The more efficient your body, the better you feel, and the more you will use your talent to produce outstanding results.
Most of us have so much to do, and we are keeping so many plates spinning. We live in fear of a plate falling off its stick and smashing on the ground.
Yet the task of tending to all the plates stops us dealing definitively with any one plate.
While our mind is a jangle of stuff, we can’t fully focus on the task in front of us, so we won’t do it well. A crowded mind leads to poor performance.
Is this you?
Try the burst technique. Turn off all distractions for a period of time you deem safe, that is, your plates can look after themselves, and totally focus on only one task.
This may require some discipline at first. Can you do it?
Here are some more ways to use the burst technique.
When I ask you, ‘What do you think?’, what does that mean to you?
How do you react when someone asks you that question?
From my perspective as the asker, it means that you are a person of value who I respect and who has an opinion that I want to hear.
What do you think it means?
Do you use this phrase a lot? Could you?
What difference would it make?
What do you think?
Here are some more tips on good questions.
I am sure you have found yourself thinking, or even yelling out loud, “How could they possibly do that!”
Find a place where you won’t be disturbed. Sit in a chair and face another chair. Imagine that the other person is sitting in the other chair and start telling them why you find them so troublesome. Then move to the other chair and answer back, as the other person. Then back again to the first chair and reply. Then back to the other chair and reply, and so on, moving every time you pause for thought.
Keep going – however long it takes and however many times you find you need to change chairs – until you get some kind of resolution or way forward.
This is using a perceptual positions model which you can find out about here.
The empty chair technique uses the first and second positions only. You could add the third position by stepping off to one side every few chair swaps and being an observer; tell the two people having the ‘conversation’ what you see from the outside. You can also use the third position to inject new information if the ‘conversation’ goes into a loop.
Communications are more likely to get action, if the call to action is at the end.
This week, start by preparing how you are going to finish them – your final words, discussion topic, slide etc.
Now that you know where you need to get to in the communication, work backwards from there to a logical place to start that takes account of how things are right now.
And keep it short with only what is needed to take them on the journey.
Start preparing the end and work backwards, and notice the difference.
I got so much great feedback about the two wolves parable last week, so here it is again with some more ideas on what it means to me.
An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life… “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. “One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego. “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. “This same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?” The old chief simply replied, “The one you feed.”
Notice your thoughts as they ebb and flow. Which wolf are your thoughts feeding?
Noticing your thoughts is about being mindful and self-aware. Noticing a thought is like watching it from a distance without trying to do anything with it; like watching sheep moving on a hill in the distance, or lying on the grass on a sunny day watching small clouds go about their business.
The only thoughts that have any calories for a wolf are the ones we engage with and dwell on. Thoughts that just drift through our minds are just thoughts; they drift as thoughts do, vanish as thoughts do, and they are not wolf food. A wolf without food becomes weak and sleepy.
Become aware of the thoughts you are engaging with, the thoughts you re-think and roll around in your mind. The thoughts that you revisit when you are alone. The thoughts that you are packing full of calories for the wolves.
Now, I ask you again, which wolf are your thoughts feeding?
"There is no learning without action, and no (sober and deliberate) action without learning." Reg Revans (originator of the method)
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