Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.
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There is an African proverb: “If you want to go fast, go alone; if you want to go far, go together.”
What journey is on your mind at the moment?
Do you want to go fast or far?
Could you even get to your journey’s goal on your own, or do you need the collaboration of others and the patience to pull this together?
How can this idea be applied in your world, on your journey?
What are you going to do differently?
If you are managing others, how does this relate to the way you lead your team and delegate tasks?
Here are the attributes of a high-performing team.
Difficult people. Oh, wouldn’t the world be a better place without them!
Think of one. Why do they seem difficult to you?
Maybe they do things differently, maybe they have a different approach, maybe they have a different communication style, maybe they have different goals in mind, maybe they consider time and deadlines differently, maybe they……. – you fill in the blank.
Usually, people are difficult because they are different.
So, seek to see the world from the other person’s point of view.
I am not saying that you should agree with them, but at least try and figure out why they are behaving the way they do. People always have a valid reason (to them) for doing what they do.
So you could ask…
“What is the positive outcome you want to achieve by this behaviour?” or words to that effect. At the very least it will make them stop and think and you will probably learn something useful.
If you can’t ask, do it as a thought experiment like this to get insights that will help.
We are very seldom operating at our peak – our most productive, our healthiest, or our best-balanced life.
I am sure, like me, you have areas in your life you would like to improve.
And, you know, it’s easy to improve.
The only thing you have to do? More than nothing.
Maybe like me, you sometimes say “I need to…….”
And then tomorrow, do nothing about it.
Tomorrow, what are you going to do that is more than nothing?
And the day after?
This is something I have come to appreciate more during the pandemic…
The bad casts a shadow.
And if you keep thinking too much about what’s bad, you may lose what’s good.
As an experiment, notice how much time you are thinking about good stuff vs bad stuff.
What is your ratio of good vs bad thinking, or positive vs. negative thinking?
How can you tweak that ratio to something better for you?
You see, we feel the way we do because of what we think – about ourselves, our world, and what happens to us.
So, if you want to feel better, think better ?
Here are some tips on thinking better.
Do you want to change something in your life, in your work, in your relationships; your health, weight, happiness, job, confidence...?
Here's the secret.
You can change your life only to the extent that you can tolerate a little discomfort.
That's all. And it is that simple.
As soon as we start to try and change something, we feel uncomfortable because it is different.
How will you ever change if you can't tolerate a little discomfort?
Your motivation to change needs to be sufficient to overcome your competing motivation to avoid discomfort.
Therefore, you can do two things:
1. Increase your motivation to change 2. Decrease the discomfort of change
Think of a change you want to make.
Each and every day, how are you going to approach that change differently now?
Despite the fact that most of the body language we ‘speak’ and ‘listen’ to is at the unconscious level, we can consciously improve our ability to use it. How are you communicating much of what others actually ‘hear’?
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